Sonia and Michael's Wedding at the Oaks at Salem

“Love is an endless mystery, for it has nothing else to explain it”

— Rabindranath Tagore

Michael and Sonia met at a Jazz Bar on Bourbon street. OR at an orthopedics conference where they were both presenting their work from graduate school. (depends on who you ask). After thriving through Covid together they knew this was real and we started planning all the things.

As Duke is near and dear to their hearts we captured their engagement between Sarah P. Duke Gardens and Duke Chapel. And all their wedding festivities were in and around Durham.

I initially met the rest of their family at the Mehndi ceremony at their home. It never ceases to overwhelm me as couples invite me into these sacred and life giving moments in their lives. Their families were already familiar with each other and blended easily as her family taught his, with great love, the meaning behind each moment.

A Mehndi is a way of wishing the couple health and prosperity as they make the next step into marriage but I love how it forces them to rely on the help of their friends and family to feed them, fix their hair, assist with potty breaks, shoe removal and communication. It forces them to slow down, not check their phone and simply be present with each other and their family while the henna dries.

I would love to see more of this for all my couples. Michael’s friends and family were certainly excited as they learned and experienced each new tradition.

As for their Haldi Ceremony, the celebrations continued and the familiarity with each others’ families grew. As each member gently and intentionally placed the turmeric and other spices on their bodies for wellness and good fortune, it quickly turned to a fun filled smearing of the yogurt and spices all over them to ensure the best wedding day “glow.” Everyone had a blast!

The wedding day welcomed more and more family and friends into the fold as they danced and laughed through each ritual and tradition. Michael and his crew had a blast celebrating his Baraat wedding entrance and her family greeted him with open arms.

Michael even included our very Southern tradition of burying the bourbon on the ceremony grounds and digging it up to ensure no rain on the wedding day. (it worked!) Both being proficient at ballroom dancing, they dazzled their guests during the reception and also tipped their hats to their NOLA beginnings and included a beignet truck instead of cake for their desserts!

You guys thank you so much for inviting us to be a part of your big weekend!

Instagram Handles for all the Vendors who made the day possible:

Photographer: @cynthiajviola with @jhaganphotog

Ceremony Venue: @oaksatsalem 

Reception Venue: @durhamcookery

Planning: @southernskiesevents

HMU: @weddedkiss

Henna: @hennaartbynadia and @mysticalhennabypriya

Florals: @beckettfloral

DJ: @dowoakevents

Catering: @limenlemon_indiangrill and @rocky_top_caters and @nukkad.usa

Bar: @withatwistbartendingservice

Dessert: @squaredoughnuts

Rentals: @curatedeventsraleigh, @americanpartyrentals and @greenhousepickersisters

Puppy Care: @barkandbonenc

Fashion: @Indochino and @bhldn

Rings: @emilychelseajewelry, @brilliantearth and @Thorum 

Officiant: Priya Amaresh

Haldi Venue: @achoteldurham

Alex and Daniel's Wedding at the Oaks at Salem

“Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction”

— Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Where to begin with these two? I need to start with Toni and Kim as I met Alex’s parents first, and I must say, I absolutely fell in love with them and wanted to adopt them immediately. We got to hang out at the Oaks a couple times during the planning process including an adorable video chat with Alex (on the West Coast) and I knew we would all be friends for life. The way they cared for each other and cared about every detail along the way was incredibly sweet. It was no surprise when I met Daniel and his parents on the wedding day, I loved them instantly as well. Everyone was so invested in this sweet couple. From running errands, to making sure they had drinks and getting hyped over chants and cheers for photos!

Thennnn came the first looks. I could barely see to keep shooting. Mom made sure she had each borrowed and blue item while Dad wiped her tears. Daniel left her speechless and then they were ready to party.

This crew did not disappoint. If I didn’t know any better I’d say every single one of them was a paid professional hype man. They brought all the excitement to the day and made sure these babes were overwhelmed with love. (not to mention SIX heartfelt speeches during dinner!)

What an incredible weekend Alex and Daniel!! Thank you so much for including me!! It was an honor to witness your love and vast friendships. You have an amazing group surrounding you.

The Wedding Vendors who made the day possible:

Photographer: Cynthia Viola

Coordinator: Christina Perkins

Venue : The Oaks at Salem

Dress: Martina Liana at Coastal Knot

Rings: Derco Diamonds

Hair: Mena Garcia Beauty

Make Up: Mena Garcia Beauty

Florist: Meristem Floral

Officiant: Kevin Grant

Live Music: Udeshi Hargett Violinist

DJ: All Events DJs

Video: Thomas Blake Films

Catering: Catering By Design

Rentals: Curated Events

Rachel and Stephen's Wedding at The Oaks at Salem

I’m not sure I’ve ever met a kinder or more endearing couple than Rachel and Stephen. I already loved them from their engagement session on the Blue Ridge Parkway, at Flat Rock Overlook. They both had the sweetest demeanor toward each other. Both mentioning several times how awkward they were sure to be in front of the camera, and of course being anything but. Totally natural together and comfortable in each others’ arms. They needed nothing else to make the shoot a success.

Fast forward to their wedding weekend in Apex at the beautiful Oaks at Salem. Everyone was bracing for the hurricane winds and rain only to be pleasantly surprised by a beautifully mild day. They were even able to keep their ceremony on the lawn! (With a few back up umbrellas just in case) :)

I loved how they described how they met on their wedding website: “Stephen was sitting at home feeling blue and cabin-fevery because the sure-to-be-shortlived COVID pandemic caused him to cancel his vacation plans. During a text chat with Rachel, he half-jokingly invited her to come over and watch this crazy Netflix show called Tiger King, certain that she'd say no. But to his surprise, she said Sure! It was an awkward hangout, followed by a couple more awkward hangouts, and then they realized they're just awkward in general”

How adorable are these two?!? I could feel the anxiousness building all morning, the power had gone out putting us all a little behind schedule, but the moment they saw each other during the first look, they practically melted into each others’ arms and the rest of the day was a breeze.

I am so grateful for kind and wonderful couples like these two. The love of the whole family permeates the day and it is such a joy to celebrate with them.

You guys thank you so much for including us on your happy day!

The Vendors who made the day possible:

Photographer: Cynthia Viola

Venue: The Oaks at Salem

Coordinator: Southern Skies Events

Dress: Larisa Samarskaya at Larisa Style

Suit: Mens Warehouse

Rings: Hollands Jewelers

Hair and Make Up: Elaine Harrison

Florist: MEWS Floral Design

Officiant: Dawn Brinson

Music: Jenny's Music Studio,

Video: Steve Creel

Bartending: Brew Masters

Catering: Ford's Fluent N' Food

Cake: Ambrosia Cake Creations

Rentals: Party Reflections

Sarah and Dalton's Wedding at The Oaks at Salem

“Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure”

— Bob Bitchin

I have so very many things to say about this incredible weekend, oh my goodness! But before I go into that, take a sec and just look at how adorable these babes are! Sarah and Dalton are just one of those couples who make an impact with everyone they meet. (And I’m not even talking about their good looks! Seriously, 3 minutes into their engagement sesh, I had to ask if they’d both modeled before, both due to their looks and with how at ease they are in front of the camera and with each other. Capturing them was as easy as breathing. I knew the wedding weekend was going to be flawless…

Fast forward to this weekend! Wow!

I hardly even know where to begin. Normally I start talking about how cute the couple is and how beautiful their details were and how cool their wedding party was. But this weekend went a little different. (feel free to scroll past my ramblings and just look at the pretty photos, but I often use this blog space both for client stories, and my own inner processing)

Friday afternoon I threw out my back. Not the end of the world, it’s happened before, usually corrects itself by the next day. I knew shooting a 12 hour wedding wouldn’t be easy, but I’d get through it so I didn’t sound any alarms and just made the drive to Raleigh.

When I woke up Saturday, everything was not corrected. It was 100 times worse, as bad as my initial injury 10 years ago. I had to crawl to my phone. I had four hours to figure out how to get this wedding captured.

I already had a solid second shooter, Melissa, who also associate shoots for me from time to time and is a total rockstar. I messaged her right away and said her 7 hours of second shooting just turned into associate. She was 100% on board, but couldn’t do the full 12 hours I was contracted for. Then I messaged one of my other amazing second shooters, Guillermo to see if there was any chance on this Father’s Day weekend he could rescue me and help Melissa. He didn’t’ hesitate for a second. He hadn’t accepted any gigs this weekend so he could spend time with the family, but knew I wouldn’t ask if it weren’t an emergency. Not only could he cover the same 7 hours as Melissa, but his wife Katie is a PA at an Ortho. She called ahead and they were waiting to give me an emergency steroid shot to make me functional for the wedding I was now due to arrive at in 90 min.

I emergency blasted several Raleigh friends to see if anyone could just be my assistant, unload all my things and hold on to my extra cameras and lenses. (I usually wear a harness with 2 cameras attached to make transitions faster when I need a different lens)

My dear friends Amber and Eric came to the rescue. He was at a car show for father’s day, but she called him home, set up everything to make sure the kids were covered and let me borrow him for those first few hours. He, of course, didn’t hesitate at all!

Melissa and Guillermo took over the ceremony and portraits which gave me enough time to get the meds the Ortho had prescribed and when they both had to leave at 8 I was able to tag in and grab the last 3 hours solo. Crisis averted.

Why do I go into all that? Wouldn’t it be better to sweep that story under the rug and not let anyone know something went wrong? I don’t think so. Call me an optimist, but there are far too many valuable pieces of magic here. This crisis affirmed for me a few things, first that I will always do what it takes. And honestly, that’s just not something you truly know about yourself until that crisis arrives. It did not cross my mind for even a second to call the couple and say, “Sorry, can’t make it! Good luck!”

Second, I have surrounded myself with incredible people through the years who will jump at the chance to help me, as I would them. That is also something you can’t truly know until that chance presents itself. The way I have designed my life, it can sometimes feel like I’m disconnected from everyone because I travel almost every week. I have friends all over the country but often only see them every couple of years and while that independence is awesome, it can make you question if your friends are merely acquaintances you have a drink with occasionally, or if they are more.

In all my earlier years of working with folks who lived on the streets, the common denominator in their predicament was not drug addiction or laziness. It was a lack of network. For a myriad of reasons, they didn’t have people in their lives who would come to their aid when needed. If you have people who love you, you will have everything you ever need.

Third, the clients I am drawn to in this profession, and who tend to be drawn to me, are people who can go with flow, adapt when necessary, and trust me when I say I’ve got them. Sarah and Dalton are the epitome of that couple. When I showed up to the venue and explained the situation, they did not panic, they did not get mad, they did not question if everything was going to get handled. Both of them simply said we trust you. Thank you so much for working it out, we trust you.

And honestly, I’m sitting here bawling as I type. Having a couple’s trust is not something I take lightly. I come back to this “job” day after day not because I get a paycheck and get to dance on the weekends. I am here because I value memories deeply. It brings me life to know I have within me the ability to capture such an important moment in time and I will never take it for granted. The silver lining to it all is knowing that I deeply love what I do. Having to watch from the sidelines while my friends captured it for me made me proud to know I have an awesome crew, but made me so sad that I couldn’t participate. I love my couples, I love my friends, I love my “job” and could not be more grateful for this beautiful life. Thank you to everyone who has helped in anyway along this journey to right now. Love you.

“I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.”

— Eric Roth

Now for the reason you’re really here…

Seriously though. Sarah and Dalton are absolute GEMS. I could not be more grateful for them, for their kindness, their grace and the love that pours out of them. Every single family member I was able to chat with while I was there spoke of how these two just go above and beyond to love on their people and how their kindness is unmatched. They love to be silly and make jokes and break into dance, but above all they are kind.

It was so special to see the deep connection they both have with their parents. This is certainly not always the case on a wedding day, so it really stands out when it’s there.

I feel like at this point, I have seen just about everything at a wedding…but these two managed to pull off TWO new things for me! First, a polish traditional dance where the bride’s family removes her veil and places an apron around her waist to signify her transition from bride to wife. All the women of the family danced in a circle around them and it was super fun!

Second, the table photo game. I must admit at first I was a little skeptical. Getting “table shots” of the couple with every table at the reception is not my favorite. As an artist, it’s hard to look past the clutter on the table and often people are still chewing their food when we get there or don’t want to get out of their seat to make a group shot, it’s usually very awkward and takes a very long time as the couple gets pulled into different conversations. I’d just as soon add all those groupings to the official family shot list and capture it “properly” in a beautiful portrait location.

I have officially changed my mind and will now recommend this to EVERYONE.

OMG it was SO fun! The DJ announced that we were going to play a game and the entire room had the length of one song to help the couple get photos with every table. It was chaotic in the best kind of way! Every table tried to one-up the last by posing in different ways and making it more fun for the couple. Not only did every single guest get captured with the couple, but everyone was belly laughing by the end and it was an incredible way to set the tone for the evening! Highly recommend!!

Omg and then we shifted into the entire room in tears as they surprised his grandparents with their wedding song. Everyone circled around them to appreciate the legacy they began when they danced to this song so many years ago.

You guys I seriously cannot thank you enough for trusting me with your memories. I adore you both and cannot wait to watch you grow and thrive together in your new adventures!

The vendors who made the day possible:

Photographers: Cynthia Viola with Melissa Toma and Guillermo Delgado

Ceremony Venue: Sacred Heart Church

Reception Venue: The Oaks at Salem

Coordinator: Southern Skies Events

Dress: Bridals by Elena

Suit: Jos A Bank

Rings: Pitman Jewelry Shop

Hair and Make Up: Head Turners- Ashley Massengill,

Florist: Blossoms Florist and Bakery

Officiant: Monsignor Brockman with Sacred Heart

DJ: East Coast Entertainment- DJ Daniel

Catering: Catering By Design

Bartending: Artful Libations

Cake: Bestow Baked Goods

Rentals: Party Reflections

Shuttle: Black Lane and Eco Style

Favors: Honey Sticks & Coozies from Etsy

Kristen and Kate's Wedding at The Oaks at Salem

“After all this time,
Always.”

— Harry Potter

I met Kristen and Kate two years ago when we were planning their Engagement Session and knew right away we would be great friends. Kristen had already proposed to Kate down in St. Augustine and we were making plans for their photoshoot. But Kate wanted to add a twist and propose back to Kristen during the shoot. So after lots of tears of all of us and much celebration our friendship grew and we had so much fun planning for the big day. (Of course covid pushed it back a year like so many others, but it was no less joyful)

Kate wore her great grandmother's pearl bracelet and Kristen wore a Wooden Watch from Ox and Birch that Kate had given her as a gift, their favorite quote inscribed on the back of course, “After all this time, Always.”

The best part of the whole day was simply the incredible relationships both ladies had with their dads. From the first looks and preparations, being walked down the aisles and first dances, the four of them were so tight and supportive of each other, they were full of big belly laughs and a *maybe* few tears. When both dads decided to swap daughters half way through the first dances, the whole room flooded with happy tears and everyone cheered.

Doughnuts, rainbow shoes, smore’s, rainbow masks, sparklers and allllll the dancing made for a wonderfully celebratory night and everyone had so much fun. So grateful for these friends and all the love they bring to the world.

The Vendors who made the day possible:

Photographer: Cynthia Viola

Venue: The Oaks at Salem

Wedding Coordinator: Laura with The Oaks

Make Up Artist: Menagerie

The Dress: Lillian West from Maggi Bridal

The Suit: Michael Kors from NY Bride and Groom

Florist: Southern Blooms Co. Wood Flower Bouquets

Officiant: Kevin Holland

DJ: Damien Maass

Videographer: Steve Creel Video

Photobooth: Cynthia Viola Photography

Catering: Cannon

Desserts: Utica Bakery + Duck Donuts

Linen/Chair/Tent Services: CE Rentals

Favors: Kubenik Honey (Kristen's grandparent's bee and honey farm in upstate NY)

Abbey and Mayukh's Wedding at The Oaks at Salem

“Dance is the hidden language of the soul”

— Martha Graham

Well…I thought I had seen alllll the dancing at weddings. But no. With three days of Henna tattoos, bridal showers, family talents shows at a Sangeet ceremony and then, of course, the wedding and reception…. now, I feel like I’ve seen all the dancing. I had SO MUCH fun this weekend. Abbey and Mayukh were gracious enough to invite me to all the festivities that their Indian/American wedding included and I was not disappointed. So much color, good food and alll the dancing.

Abbey and Mayukh like to say they met the third time they were supposed to. After being in the same place at the same time twice and missing each other, they finally had their first conversation at a friend’s birthday party and the rest is history.

Their wedding, like so many others this year was rescheduled due to covid, and still could not include at least 100 guests who would have otherwise been here if not for travel restrictions, but it didn’t damper the fun. Both families were so happy to meet each other and celebrate with the happy couple.

The Mehndi party kicked of the weekend as all the ladies were decorated with henna.

After the wedding rehearsal and rehearsal brunch on Saturday they had the Haldi Ceremony where turmeric was placed on their head and hands by 5 married women on each side of their family. This is considered a symbol of blessing for the couple and a healthy marital life. According to Indian customs, all the married ladies of the house apply haldi to the bride and the groom in order to bless them with a long and strong relationship.

Then the dancing began. The Sangeet. Everything you’ve ever imagined about Bali dancing…. this was it. It was absolutely mesmerizing and beautiful. It truly set the tone of celebration for the rest of the weekend.

Sunday morning for the joint wedding ceremony was perfectly beautiful and every tradition for both sides was welcomed and celebrated.

I had soooo much fun celebrating with these two and hope to witness many more Indian weddings soon!

The Vendors who made the day possible:

Photographers: Cynthia Viola with Guillermo Delgado

Venue: The Oaks at Salem

Wedding Coordinator: Aubi and Laura from The Oaks

Henna: Henna by Neena Jain

Her Dress: Pronovias from Tre Bella in Durham, NC

Wedding Party Attire: David's Bridal and Menswarehouse

The Rings: Diamond's Direct

Hair Stylist and Make up Artist: Ashley Watts

Florist: Cary Florist

Officiant: Jason Lynch

DJ: Frankie at CWDJ Entertainment

Catering: Under the Oak Restaurant and Catering

Cake Baker: I Do Cakes

Bartending: BrewMasters

Linen/Chair/Tent Services: CE Rentals

Invitations: Papel Custom Design

Favors: Wine bottle stoppers featuring a prominent compass rose on top of the stopper

Chris and Kat's Wedding at the Oaks at Salem

“Love her but leave her wild.”

— Atticus

1394.

These cuties joked all weekend that they have all be waiting 1394 days to celebrate and everyone needed to “party accordingly.” Which everyone was more than happy to oblige. Everywhere they went their hype team (wedding party) would start a chant, “Murphy….Murphy….Murphy.” They would start quietly then get loud and jump around and throw their hands up in the air, it was SO much fun to be a part of! I think after all was said and done, if Kat and Chris could have chosen to have their “normal” wedding last year verses their covid reschedule now, they would have still chosen this. The anticipation was well worth the wait.

You can’t have a covid reschedule without the quintessential drink of choice, Corona. We were joking that they nearly went out of business when the virus first hit, now it’s the favorite drink at every rescheduled event. The weather even gave them a nod of approval as it was the most gorgeous sunny day, complete with a slight drop in temp to welcome fall.

Chris and Kat wrote letters to each other and read them during their first look. I think this might be my new favorite way to greet each other. So heartfelt, and allowed them to say everything they wanted to say to each other in the moment and also started the portraits off on a genuinely love-filled note.

This day was 100% worth the wait and I am so grateful these guys stuck it out and grew stronger together as they rescheduled all their plans. Thank you so much for including me you guys! So happy you are officially #finallythemurphys :)

The Vendors who made the day possible:

Photographers: Cynthia Viola with Guillermo Delgado

Venue and Coordinator: Aubriana with The Oaks at Salem

Her Dress: Stella York from Michele-A Bridal Boutique

His Attire: Kenneth Cole Reaction from Men's Warehouse

Bridesmaids: Kennedy Blue

Groomsmen: Egara from Men's Warehouse

Her Ring: Belloring Etsy Shop

His Ring: Gentlemen's Junction Etsy Shop

Her Perfume: Coco Chanel (Chris chose this for her just before the wedding) :)

His Cologne: Dior Sauvage

Hair Stylist: Taylor Burgos (Chris's sister)

Make Up Artist: Julie Robbins

Florist: MEWS Floral Design

Officiant: Lynne Weeks

DJ: All Events DJs

Catering: Funky Fresh

Linen/Chair/Tent Services: CE Rentals

The Oaks at Salem Wedding | Alex and Shae

“Everyone deserves someone who makes them look forward to tomorrow ”

As Alex approached the altar to a teary-eyed Shae, she took the mic and opened the ceremony with a moment of remembrance for those who couldn’t be there. The wedding party then stepped through the ceremony doors to retrieve a canvas photo of each of those lost loved ones. Shae was speechless and the tears started flowing, from everyone. You could feel the presence of those lost sitting right there among them.

Charlene next invited them to read their vows. Laced with laughter and light heartedness, Shae and Alex both shared of the challenges they had overcome thus far in their relationship and how they’d be there for each other through each of the challenges to come.

I had so much fun working with these two in the weeks leading up to the big day. Alex is all about surprises and really wanted to make the day special and unique. We discussed everything from her unique attire to smoke bombs and nerf gun fights, finally settling on lanterns for the final send off. Surrounded by their closest friends they watched them float off into the distance and held each other, knowing the hard part was over and now they got to spend the rest of their lives together.

You guys! Thank you so much for letting me be a part of your day! It was absolutely perfect!

The Vendors who made the day possible:

Photographer: Cynthia Viola

Venue: The Oaks at Salem

Coordinator: Becky Chapman

Wedding Attire: Men's Warehouse & David's Bridal

Rings: Jared

Florist: Asali Events

Officiant: Charlene Barbour

DJ: Bowtie Mobile DJ - Tracy Telenko

Catering: Cannon Catering

Cake Baker: Mad Hatter's Durham

GF Cupcakes and Cookies: Landmark Gluten Free Bakery

Rentals: CE Rental

Invitations: Shutterfly

The Oaks at Salem Wedding | Ann and Stephen

“When you’re a kid, you assume your parents are soulmates. My kids are gonna be right about that.”

— Pam - The Office

When I met Ann and Stephen I knew I’d found a couple that was meant to be together. Just the way they glance at each other and laugh at each other jokes and flirt is truly endearing. Then I really got to see their love shine as we explored the UNC campus for their Engagement session in February.

You know you’re loved when people will come from all over the country to celebrate with you. Almost everyone there, including the bride and groom were from somewhere else: DC, New York, Michigan, Denver, Seattle, and it’s easy to see why, these two are very lovable from the moment you meet them, both individually and as a couple. Everyone just wants to see them succeed and I loved being a part of it.

So lovable in fact, they rival Jim and Pam from “The Office.” You see, just before Ann put her dress on she noticed a tear in the fabric right on the very front of the dress, it wasn’t super noticeable, but still pretty devastating. She immediately sent Stephen a message telling him the news and, sensing how upset she was, said, “It’s just like Pam, you want me to cut my tie like Jim?” Cue ALLLLLL the tears from all of us! Oh my goodness he could not have said a more perfect thing. In their vows later she mentioned how he always knew how to say exactly the right thing at the right time to make her laugh. They are truly perfect for each other.

Thank you so much for letting us participate in your most perfect day you guys!!

The Vendors who Made the Day Possible:

Photographers: Cynthia Viola with Brittany Sloan

Venue: The Oaks at Salem

Coordinator: Becky Chapman with Lily Rose Events

Bride's Dress: Global Bridal Gallery

Bridesmaids' Dresses: The Dessy Group

Groom and Groomsmens' Attire: Men's Warehouse

The Rings: Custom designed with family heirlooms at Ascot Diamonds

Hair and Make Up: Tiffany Mentrak

Florist: Petals on the Go

Officiant: Libby Mayock

DJ: Damien Maass

Caterer: Rocky Top Catering

Cake Baker: Cinda's Creative Cakes

Linen Services: CE Rental

Shuttle Bus: Ecostyle

Invitations: Minted

Rehearsal Dinner: Lake Johnson Waterfront Center

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Oaks at Salem Wedding | Lindsay and Matt

“What greater thing is there for human souls than to feel that they are joined for life – to be with each other in silent unspeakable memories”

— George Eliot

Lindsay and Matt know how to go big on a party. From the classic cocktails, to the incredible DJs to knife fighting among the groom's party before the ceremony and Spice Girls jam sessions in the Bride's suite; they and their wedding party are there to have a good time. We had so much fun capturing the big day.

The Oaks at Salem was, of course, the perfect backdrop, and no one could have ordered a better weather forecast. It was like a fairy tale. 

When Lindsay's mom and dad shared advice for her during the first look, we all got a little teary eyed and everyone in the bride's party spoke from the heart as they recalled fun stories and shared what they admired about their friend. 

Lindsay and Matt wrote a special note to little Eva to carry with her in the flower basket, and to one day use for her "something blue" if she wishes. She promptly dropped it on the ground which made everyone laugh, but we all knew how very special it was, and she will too some day. :)

The Oaks really does have an incredible backdrop for portraits, any time of the day. Such a beautiful venue.

I'm pretty sure I ate three entire bowls of m&ms by myself during the reception, it's now officially my favorite wedding favor. :)

The choreographed dances had everyone smiling, nothing beats a solid dip...except maybe dad throwing money at the bride :)

Thank you guys for letting us be a part of your day!! We had an incredible time!!

Hope you enjoy Saint Lucia!! 

The Vendors who made the day Possible

Photography: Cynthia & A.J. Viola

Venue: The Oaks at Salem

Coordinators: Becky and Ashley at the Oaks

Bridal Gown: Lillian West from Maggi Bridal in Raleigh

Bridesmaids Dresses: Revelry

Groom's Tux and Groomsmen's Suits: The Black Tux

Bride and Groom's Rings: Bailey's

Hair and Make Up: Cori Lee Style

Florist: MEWS Designs

Officiant: Tim Tharrington, "With This Ring"

DJ: All Events DJs

Videographer: The Bride's Brother, Ryan

Photobooth: All Events DJs

Catering: Cook Shack Catering

Cake and Donuts: Edible Art & Rise Biscuits and Donuts

Linen Services: Party Reflections

Invitations: Minted

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Oaks at Salem Wedding | Katrin + Ryan

“Love doesn’t make the world go ‘round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile”

— Franklin P. Jones

Katrin and Ryan’s wedding was such a peaceful, laid back day! I love it when couples just go with the flow and don't let details overwhelm them. They knew they had a great team at the Oaks making everything happen so they took everything in stride and were that much more excited when they finally go to see each other!

The day started with an enchanting fog over the pond and ended in the most beautiful glowy light imaginable! Two of my favorite details from the day: the lace sown onto Katrin's dress from her mother's dress and the engraving Ryan had put into her wedding band, a phrase they say to each other often... I love ya, "to the moon and back." 

I think one of my favorite parts of the day was getting to watch Katrin interact with her sister Marissa. They are so similar and yet so different at the same time! They picked on each other, and Marissa definitely picked on Ryan, as she had been the entire engagement, but when it came to her reception speech, she poured on the love for them both. I also loved Katrin's dad’s reaction when he saw her for the first time. I could tear up just thinking about it. There were so many sweet moments that happened throughout the day!

Watching two people like Katrin and Ryan commit to loving one another for the rest of their lives is such a beautiful thing. I hope you love these two and their beautiful Oaks of Salem wedding as much as I do! Enjoy!

They didn't want to see each other before the ceremony, but they did like the idea of just holding hands and being able to say "hey" and check on each other before hand. We found a perfect doorway to make that happen and they both eased each other's nerves perfectly. They were all smiles the rest of the day just knowing that the other was just as excited as they were!

Oh my goodness, these guys cracked me up so much! Love it when the wedding party jumps right in and decides to play and just have fun celebrating the couple!

The Vendors who made the day possible:

Photography: Cynthia & A.J. Viola with assistance from Brittany Sloan

Venue/Coordinator: Veni @ The Oaks at Salem, Apex

Bride's Gown: Lana Addison Bridal

Bridesmaids Gowns: Bella Bridesmaids

Groom's Attire: The Black Tux

Florist: Bloomworks

Officiant: Jody Welker

DJ: All Events DJs

Catering: Catering Works

Cake Baker: Clarke, a bridesmaid :)

Linen/Chair Services: Party Reflections

Invitations: Wedding Paper Divas

It's a Wedding, What Could Possibly go Wrong?

“I believe that if life gives you lemons, you should make lemonade... And try to find somebody whose life has given them vodka, and have a party.”

— Ron White

One of my new favorite gifts to give our couples is this epic 85 page wedding magazine I created to help make the photography timeline a little smoother, explain why a first look is so super special, give tips on healthy skin and hair, and generally make the day as smooth as possible. You can't experience over 100 weddings and NOT come away with advice on how to make the day a little smoother.  

In writing it, though, I realized JUST how many situations I've experienced that *could* have ruined the day. 

I've seen the "getting into the dress" moment take an extra 30 minutes because a button popped off and had to be resown on the fly. (Thanks grandma!)

I've seen grooms and whole bridal parties thoroughly trashed before they even walked down the aisle. (The keg stands that followed at the reception didn't help the situation).

Bridesmaids who couldn't arrive at the last second because they went into LABOR. 

DJs who packed up their gear and left halfway through the reception because there was a miscommunication on how long they were to stay. (Luckily A.J. was still DJing at the time and he was able to grab his gear and finish the night for them).

Very close family members who died the week of the wedding. 

I've seen a ceremony start an HOUR late while half the guests sat quietly in the church and the other half in traffic as an unexpected PARADE started up through the neighborhood. Tip: You're going to want to make sure to check road closures/races/parades/construction in the area directly around your venue(s).

A flower girl bit by a very venomous snake at the rehearsal placing her in the ER and on crutches for the wedding.

Torrential downpours, flooding, a hurricane, a foot of snow and sweltering 100+ heat. 

The point of this post is not to scare you out of your big day or force an elopement but to remind you that no wedding is perfect. Things are going to go wrong and people are going to disappoint you. At the end of the day, every single wedding ended with an "I do" and a happy, albeit exhausted couple waving good bye to their friends as they set off on a new adventure...together. 

If I can leave you with just 3 tips, I would say:

1. Don't sweat the details. Noone but you knows what color the napkins were supposed to be, and everyone expects the ceremony to start a little late. Shake it off and remember this is supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life!

2. Plan some downtime. It's not a matter of IF the timeline will get backed up, but by how MUCH. If you can plan an extra 15 minutes for hair or an extra 30 minutes to drive from venue to venue and especially an extra 15-30 minutes ALONE with your new spouse to take it all in, savor the moment and clear your head, I promise your day will be far less stressful. If you need help with this please just ask. I've become an expert at finding extra hours in the day. Failing to plan for something to go wrong means planing to fail when it does.

3. LOVE your people well. I've seen so many couples say hurtful things to the people they love the most. It's not worth hurting your relationship with your mother or best friend or future spouse because they dropped the ball on something. Do your best to remember that they've given you so much of their free time to help you plan and they only want what's best. Love them well with kind words and generous hugs. If you can throw in a gift or two, do. They will always remember how you treated them over how perfect the day was. 

Remember, you're getting MARRIED! This is supposed to be fun! Let the mistakes roll off your back and savor the sweet moments. 

Vendor Series - Hair and Makeup - WINK

“Because of your smile, you make life more beautiful.”

— Thich Nhat Hanh

I've been having so much fun highlighting the wedding vendors and members of the community that I love to work with and think will be helpful for our couples and families. When you work in an industry filled with artists, you tend to work with a lot of people who truly enjoy their careers who barely feel like they're working half the time. It's so fulfilling and I love seeing others love what they do.

The lovelies at WINK Hair and Makeup are no different. I worked with Kristi at Alaria and Drew's wedding this past October and loved Kristi right from the start. She was very easy to work with and more than willing to do the "dance" as I captured photos of Alaria getting ready. (Not all stylists and artists are willing to move around to make the shot better).

I was further blown away when I got to meet (almost) all the girls when we shot team portraits. They are all SO friendly and knowledgable. I was asking all the questions especially to Janna and Jeanette who happened to arrive first. They are both makeup artists for WINK and lash extension techs so I had a ton of mascara questions lol. Afterwards they all took me out for a drink and we had the BEST time. You will seriously love working with any of them whether for your big day or your engagements or family portraits. Below are a few of the questions we discussed. :)

Why is it important for a bride to hire a professional for her hair and makeup the day of the wedding? What are common regrets when they don't? Hiring a professional to do you and your bridal party's hair and makeup for your wedding is definitely a luxury purchase, but when hiring a professional hair and makeup team, you ensure that you will have years of training and expertise. We know what products photograph well and stay on the best. We use high-quality products and know how to tame the most unruly of hair. We create timelines that keep everyone on track and on time and we are well equipped to solve any problem thrown our way. When hiring experienced and educated beauty professionals, you get the peace of mind that Aunt Gertrude won't be wearing that hideous fuchsia eyeshadow with her spider lash mascara and cousin Tina's contour will be more natural rather than drag queen.

The biggest regret we have come across from women that decide to either do their own hair and makeup or have a friend do it is that hair and makeup didn't look as they imagined it should be and that it added more stress to their day.

Are there any skin conditioning regimens you suggest in the weeks leading up to the big day? If you have any concerns when if comes to your skin, take the time to visit a dermatologist. Otherwise, skin regimens are going to be based on your skin type and it is extremely important to have a routine for day and night.  Making sure that you are consistent with your skincare regimen months before the wedding will only help to ensure that your makeup goes on smoother and looks its best.  Exfoliate 1-2 times a week and get an amazing moisturizer for your face, neck, and lips. We love Sonia Roselli skincare and keep it in our kits! Get plenty of rest and water. Drink lots and lots of water. 

Do not get waxed the week of your wedding (makeup won't adhere to the areas that you got waxed the same as the rest of your face), also, do not get spray tanned less than 2 days before the wedding day.

Do you suggest anything specific with makeup knowing that they will be having multiple photos taken? Make sure that there is no more than an SPF 15 in your makeup or moisturizers, use primers and setting sprays, don't use too much shimmer. Faux lashes always photograph beautifully. They just add a little more polish to your look and you can get them as natural or as dramatic as you are comfortable with. If you aren't planning on hiring your artist to stay for touch-ups after the ceremony and before pictures are taken, we would suggest putting together a little touch-up kit that includes a pressed blotting powder, lipstick (ALWAYS make sure your lipstick looks good before photos!), blotting papers, a moisturizing and setting spray and a little lash glue. Also, remember to cry pretty and try to catch your tears (pat dry don't rub/wipe away tears).

With an updo, what precautions do you take to make sure it hasn't fallen by the time of the ceremony? For updos, we ensure that it is secured by using a ton of bobby pins and crisscrossing them if hair is thick. Finish with firm hold hair spray and wiggling or lightly shaking the client's head to make sure everything feels secure. We also always do touch ups before we leave to make sure nothing has fallen. 

Is a trial session really needed or is the day of enough? Our contract actually requires a hair and makeup trial before the wedding day. The trial is our chance to get to know each other, play with different looks to discover your wedding day style. We always suggest scheduling your trial on a day that you will be taking pictures (i.e. engagement pictures or bridal portraits) so you can see how beautifully the hair and makeup look with your wedding dress, how well it photographs, and how well your hair and makeup last throughout humidity or smooches ;)

Why do you love doing hair and makeup, what brings you back to it week after week? As far as bridal hair and makeup go, we absolutely love bringing out a woman's beauty and seeing her face when everything is put together. You can see a woman's demeanor change immediately when she feels beautiful. She poses in the mirror, she smiles bigger and laughs louder. We adore being a part of that. 

Krystal and Kristi are incredible business owners who love what they do, love their team and love making women of all shapes and sizes feel and look their best. Their passion is refreshing and will ensure that you are in the very best hands. I recommend them to all by brides and families! 

Vendor Series - The Venue - The Oaks at Salem

“Too much of a good thing can be wonderful”

— Mae West

As a way to better serve our couples, over the next few months I will be highlighting and interviewing a few of our favorite wedding vendors as well as others in the community who directly impact the new life of the young couple. I want to ask them why they love what they do, some tips for couples navigating this new territory and pitfalls that can be avoided. 

This week I'd like to highlight The Oaks at Salem in Apex. Oh my goodness. I have worked with so many venues in the area, and I am telling you, no one has it all together quite like The Oaks. We are talking a GORGEOUS white house, beautiful lake, dreamy barn complete with giant oak trees and a plethora of other hidden gems on their 11 acre estate. Additionally they provide both the ceremony and reception space so your guests don't have to drive around, indoor and outdoor options depending on the weather, valet parking so guests don't have to hike up to their car in the field, full on-site coordination (which I'll get into in a second), and the most perfect getting ready spaces you've ever seen.

Now, I've seen other beautiful venues, but April has intentionally laid everything out with your memories in mind. Not just the beautiful backdrops, but very intentional natural window light in the bridal suite, neutral walls, and private areas both indoor and out for the first look and bridal party photos. These details make such a big difference in your final images, as well as the flow of photography on the big day.  

If the grounds themselves weren't enough, they have THE BEST on-site coordinators around. Veni, Joslin, Tina and Katie go out of their way to make sure the day is flawless. They even hold vendor meetings with the couple and/or parents a month before the wedding to ensure everyone is on the same page and working as a team to make the couples' dreams a reality. They are so good at what they do. Vendors working together as a team to make sure the couple is taken care of makes me SO happy. (You'd be surprised how often it's not the case)

Here's a few questions we discussed to help you navigate the venue world:

How many weddings have been hosted at the Oaks? 

We have hosted over 300 successful weddings. 

Why is it important for a couple to choose a venue with everything in one location? 

Our venue provides a seamless experience for couples looking to host both ceremony and reception with us, or for couples looking to have their ceremony off-site.  Our Oaks Coordinators create comprehensive timelines that cover all the moving parts!

What are some of the biggest hurdles couples face when choosing a venue? 

Couples face hurdles deciding between their top choice venues, and often focus only on aesthetics. In choosing a venue, couples should compare the venues apples to apples. This includes factoring in their inclusions, weather contingency plans, organization, and the overall flow of the space. We strive to educate potential couples and provide them with all the information they need to make a well informed decision.

How does your team manage to keep up with so many unique details at each wedding, especially when you have multiple events in the same month? 

Our team has a very organized system in place so that we can keep up with all the details! Upon booking, clients are assigned a lead coordinator that they correspond with via email.  Using email for communication is very convenient for the client, generates a fast response from us, and helps us keep all of the planning details documented in one place. The lead coordinator organizes an on-site meeting with the client and their vendors before the wedding to create a timeline and layout for the big day.  Every wedding is unique and these meetings allow us to discuss and account for all of those fine details. In addition to an on-site lead coordinator, every couple is also assigned an assistant coordinator for the day of the wedding.  The timeline and layout are a life source for us and all of the vendors on the day of the wedding, they include reminders and detailed notes down to the minute! 

What brings your team the most joy at a wedding and makes you want to host them week after week? 

We love to see the life-long memories being made and the abundance of love and happiness. It is a pleasure to be a part of these momentous occasions!

As you can see, The Oaks at Salem is a premier wedding venue that is capable of covering everything you could need. Trust me, you won't regret choosing them to make your day happen exactly as you envision it! To see my most recent wedding there, check out Alaria and Drew's blog post. 

Best of 2016 Weddings and Engagements

“What greater thing is there for human souls than to feel that they are joined for life – to be with each other in silent unspeakable memories.”

— George Eliot

After racing through the busiest season of my career followed by an intense family roller coaster of love, pain, joy, sorrow, death and new life, I am actually pretty excited to coast into this first week of the new year with little more to do than reflect on what has been good, what needs improvement and dream of all that might be in 2017. 

A.J. and I have had the incredible joy of meeting new couples whose love overflows for each other and makes our own love stronger from witnessing it. It never gets old. This will be my tenth year capturing love and memories for couples, and the lover-of-new-things within me thought I'd be tired of it by now.  But I can say with all the honesty I possess, I cannot get enough. 

When Jon teared up watching his beloved Abbie walk toward him in all her radiance, my heart exploded and I loved them both even more. When Heather and her dad, Bryan, shared a father-daughter first look through tears, light teasing and perfect joy I could barely see through my own tears to even capture the moment. When Alaria and Drew found themselves at the very end of the night surrounded by all their beloved friends whom they rarely got to see due to distance and the trajectory of their future I burst with happiness for them.

Watching our couples revel in each moment and knowing that they trusted us to capture each one for a lifetime of joyful memories brings me more joy than I know how to put properly into words. I'm excited to see who is going to walk into our path this year and to hear all the love stories that will undoubtedly make our own love continue to grow. 

Thank you for an incredible year!

Alaria and Drew - The Oaks at Salem Wedding, Apex, NC

“After all this time? ~ Always.”

— Dumbledore to Severus

Oh my goodness, I knew I loved these two before I even met them just by hearing the tiniest snippet of their story which can be summed up pretty well with in their adorable hashtag #agypsyandasoldierwedding 

They met in 5th grade, were friends all through high school, fell in love in college and the rest is history. Most of their bridal party were even friends from all the school years together. They chose to be married at my favorite wedding venue in the Raleigh area, The Oaks at Salem. A gorgeous white house surrounded by 11 acres of land, trees and a beautiful lake. Veni is an amazingly organized coordinator and I adore working with her. Their team is just the best! 

You are going to love these details:

First of all, Alaria's bouquet was wrapped in a piece of her mother's wedding dress, giving it a timeless feel. For the unity portion of the ceremony Alaria held a vase of water while Drew placed a single rose in it: the rose symbolizing love while the water symbolized everything needed to make the love grow. So beautiful. 

They also chose to have a Ring Warming Ceremony. As every guest entered the space they placed the rings in their hands and wished good tidings and blessings on their marriage. Alaria happens to be a lover of words and reading, so they brought a beautiful typewriter for guests to type out their congratulatory notes on, something they'll be able to read throughout their marriage as they need it. 

Damien of course rocked the party with his amazing DJ skills, and he and his team will have an incredible cinema story up soon, I'll be sure to add the link here as soon as it's ready. Beau blew everyone away with his incredible menu and it was a night to be remembered for all. 

You guys, I was truly overwhelmed with all the beauty. Of course you were gorgeous, but your spirits were beautiful and the love brought by your many friends and family just surrounded the whole day with something special. Thank you for letting me be a part of your day, I hope you enjoy reliving it with a few of my favorite images. 

Being huge Harry Potter fans, they had the groomsmen take the personality quiz on Pottermore and had them wear socks representing their house! So cute! (I *might* have also taken the quiz out of curiosity, discovering that I'd be a Gryffindor...in case you were wondering) ;)

Vendors:

Photography: Cynthia Viola

Venue/Coordinator: Veni at The Oaks at Salem

Videographer: Damien Maass

DJ: Damien Maass

Hair and Make-up: Kristi Martinson at WINK

Dress: Bridal Boutique of NC

Groom/Groomsmen attire: Egara by Men's Warehouse

Rings: designed and custom made by Samantha Laddin at Green Lake Jewelry, Seattle

Bride's Shoes: Ophelia by Vince Camuto

Groom's Shoes: Heritage by Joseph Abboud

Groommen's Socks: Harry Potter Hogwarts houses socks :)

Officiant: Darren Granniss 

Perfume: Armani Code for her

Cologne: John Varvatos Vintage

Catering: Beau Catering

Florist: Teacup Floral

Cake and pies: Laura at Confectionate Cakes

Truffles: Chocolate Smiles

Get away car: Dave's Classic Cars

Invitations: Wedding Paper Divas

First Dance: Work Song by Hozier

Why You Shouldn't Anticipate Their Reaction

“Love has nothing to do with what you’re expecting to get – only what you’re expecting to give – which is everything”

— Katharine Hepburn

The Oaks at Salem

It's not uncommon for a mom or perhaps a bridesmaid, even an officiant to pull me aside before the ceremony or first look begins and say, "Now make sure you get his reaction, I just know he is going to lose it!" I, of course, assure them I will do my best and that the moment is just going to be perfect. 

While this sentiment is meant as excitement for the couple, and nerves just make people say things because they've heard others say them; I've found in practice that it sets up both the couple and those who love them for failure or disappointment. 

If you expect your love to cry and they don't, or drop to their knees and they don't, or do a happy dance and they don't, it immediately makes you wonder if maybe you're not dazzling enough. Maybe he doesn't like the dress you chose, or she thinks your hair looks funny. Maybe they're just ready to get this part over with so they can get to the party. Maybe they're getting cold feet. In reality, maybe your love is just not a crier. Maybe instead you've rendered them speechless and all they can do is take you in. 

Milligan College

Might I suggest instead to have no expectations, only love.

Rather than worrying about how they're going to respond to you, focus instead on taking them in, fully. Notice the way her curls fall across her face (her stylist put in a lot of work to make that happen you know), notice that he put on your favorite cologne and breath in deeply, notice the shy look on her face as she twirls (she's a little nervous you won't like her dress), notice how he fidgets with his watch and sways back and forth (he's a nervous too, this feels like a first date after all).

When you commit to just living fully in the moment and allowing your love and your family and friends do the same, I promise the day will be more fulfilling, more surprising, more memorable. You be you and let them be them.

Live in the present and let me capture the memories. 

Carol's Garden Inn

Annnnnnnnd the same theory applies to the proposal of course... 

Roan Mountain

And one more...can't resist. :)

The Inn at Crestwood